Are your current routines serving you right now?
I want you to do a heart check. Take a pulse and really think about that question.
- How are your current routines serving you?
- Are any routines currently working that you want to keep using?
- Do your current routines need to be modified or revamped?
- What are some routines that you need to start implementing?
This is really going to help take a pulse of where you’re at and what changes you can make. I’m going to walk you through four routines to consider implementing into your life. I feel like it’s going to make you so much more intentional and create more peace in your home. So if you’re ready to get into this, let’s do it.
Routine # 1: Weekly Check-In
Three intentional meetings that are going to keep everyone in your family on the same page.
Personal CEO Day: First, you need to have a personal CEO day. Now, if you missed Episode 83, be sure to go check that out as I talked about the importance of a personal CEO day. But to quickly recap, it basically helps you prepare for your weekly spouse check-in and your family meeting. It helps you think about where you’re going and it helps you map out a plan to get there. So this personal CEO day makes you actually set aside time to think through your personal life.
Spouse Check-In: The second intentional meeting that you need is a spouse check-in. So during the spouse check-in, you want to review your budget together, discuss upcoming events and schedules. You want to plan your meals and weekly household responsibilities, and you want to reflect on the family dynamic and what changes and adjustments you need to make. Once you start to prioritize this, it really helps to cut down on a lot of issues, tension, and conflict that may arise later in the week. You’re just on the same page when it comes to the fundamental needs of your family.
Family Meeting: This third intentional meeting that will keep everyone on the same page is a family meeting which is done every single week. In this meeting you can update the visual family calendar, so your kids know what’s expected of them that week as well as any activities that they can look forward to. You can talk about meal and snack ideas and have your kids be a part of the meal planning and prepping process .This gives them the sense of control that they are a part of something bigger and let’s them know that their opinions matter. During this meeting, you can discuss family contributions to remind everyone of their responsibilities to help the family. Once your meeting is over, always end with an activity like playing a game or going on a walk.
Routine # 2: 10 Minute Connections
Now it’s important that we keep our children’s and our spouses attention buckets full at all times. So here are a couple of ideas:
Special time with Kids: This is one-on-one time that you spend with each child every single day, and your child gets to choose what they want to do with you. So if your child is really struggling and they’re being defiant, or maybe they just don’t want to do what you’re asking them to do, connect with them and then spend 10 minutes of special time with them.
Couch Check-ins with your Spouse: Spend 10 minutes per day, face-to-face, having a conversation with your spouse. It’s just a check-in to see how you’re both doing. Having uninterrupted conversations without your kiddos around.
Sibling Time: A special time each day should be set aside for your kiddos to bond and play intentionally with each other. This could be a time where you can introduce new activities that they can only do during sibling time, like a new card game or a puzzle or a magnet set.
Routine # 3: Five Minute Tidy
This is the perfect way to enlist the whole family to quickly clean the house. Now it can be really daunting, but if you just ask for five minutes from your family, set a timer, and get everyone to work, this can change everything for you. Do this regularly at least three times a day, after each meal time, things will be so much lighter for you. Make it a game and see how quickly you can put things away, so you don’t need to do any more tidy times throughout the day.
Routine # 4: 20 Minute Blitz
No more two hour cleaning sessions on the weekend, we are tossing those out the window. The concept of this routine is to focus on one project or area for 20 minutes a day. Start with your problem areas, the super messy areas that require the most help and enlist your spouse and kiddos to work on this area with you. You can accomplish a lot in 20 minutes of focus time. I think doing these small blitzes instead of the two hour work sessions just gives you a small sense of accomplishment every single day. You can encourage these blitzes for your kids and your spouse as well. Just maybe start with two to three times a week for them, and then work your way up.
Try these routines out in your home this week. I truly believe this will just simplify things for you and create a more peaceful team environment in your home.
- Weekly Check Ins: The personal CEO day, the spouse check-in and the family meeting. You’re going to do those intentional meetings every single week.
- 10 Minute Check-Ins: One-on-one special time with each kiddo for 10 minutes; the 10 minute spouse check-in on the couch; 10 minutes of sibling time, every single day to encourage sibling bonding.
- Five-minute tidy: Try to get these done at least three times a day after each meal. It’s only five minutes at a time, but those five minutes, times three, adds up very quickly.
- 20 Minute Blitz: Do these every single day, but be sure to schedule this in and make a note of where you’re going to spend those 20 minutes. Create a reminder and set an alarm so you know what are you’re working on for those 20 minutes
I hope that you have found these routines to be helpful! If so, I would love for you to comment below which routine is your favorite and which one you are going to start implementing! And of course, share it on Instagram, and tag me @thepurposegathering.
As always mama, I am here rooting for you and you are not alone on this journey.